HOW – it’s what we all want to know. The way in which we accomplish a goal, a desired result. The dictionary defines it as “in what manner or by what means…”
I notice that when I have a moment to contemplate what I’m feeling most pressed about (which usually has to do with my work) the question of “how” I move toward accomplishing a particular goal can become one of my most overwhelming concerns.
If you can relate to this feeling, (and I’m pretty sure almost everyone on the planet can) then you understand where I’m coming from. It doesn’t matter what you’re goal may be – but when it comes to assisting your child, there are more than a few ways to support them. We can often get wrapped up in deciphering the “how” rather than simply taking action.
So now what?
Well, here are some suggestions that have helped me and many of my clients…
- STOP. Always remember that getting stuck in the “how” of any goal or activity is a way to subconsciously avoid taking action due to fear -fear of failure, fear of success, fear we are not enough. All around plain old fear.
- Detach from the worry and concern about the “how.” Taking action and making the first step forward is really what’s most important. If you make a mistake, you can pause and tweak your direction. Ultimately, what’s important is the movement, not the manner in which you make it.
- Relax. There is no perfect solution, answer or outcome. Each child is like a fingerprint and therefore there are many paths to achieving their ultimate and unique potential. You will only discover that on the journey of trial and error. What’s revealed along the way is what’s important, not the “how.”
Posted on May 23, 2012 at 2:09 pm by Lauren, your Sensory Design Specialist